Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Some Time To Process

Since my last post, I've had some time to process the fact that people who have been in my life for over 20 years don't want to be my friends anymore.

I've gone through the different emotions of grief, mainly anger and sadness, but overall I've come to realize that I need to stop wasting my time and energy on people who don't love and support me.  I can't make people love me or want to be friends with me.

I'm trying to be as strong as a fellow widow blogger. As The Polished Widow says:

"I have had friends say, while they are happy to still be friends with me, they don’t want to get to know my new husband.



To this I say, if you can’t acknowledge my future, then you don’t have a place in my life.
For friends to say ‘out of respect to Nick’ they don’t want to know John, then it’s their loss, because Nick wouldn’t want that either.
While I understand it may be ‘weird’ for some to see me with someone new, I have managed to be in a place where i’m very comfortable with it, so please don’t project your own insecurities on me."
Even though these people don't want to be friends with me right now, I'm hoping that we will come back to each other in the future, but I've come to accept that we may not and I'm going to have to be ok with that.  I will continue to embrace those who do love me and want to be my friends right now.  That is where I need to spend my time and energy.